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To many, how to achieve success in life, or perhaps what success is, is obvious. It’s a life that includes a nice car, nice home, impressive job, and an attractive spouse. Yet, people with all of these things aren’t always happier than those with less impressive lives.
Make no mistake though, money is a defence! It is an essential asset that is needed to pay for many things that make life comfortable, let alone the more luxurious things.
Why discuss how to achieve success?
Let’s be honest here. Money, or rather the lack of it, can make mental health issues worse, and mental health issues can make managing finances harder. It can lead to a vicious cycle that can be difficult to come out of.
Worrying about money or your success can lead to sleep problems, difficulty focusing at work, difficulty looking after your children and your home, amongst other things. Money worries can lead to overwhelm and distress.
Not so fun fact: Financial worries are the leading cause of marriages falling apart. I’ve had my fair share of arguments over the ol’ mula!
On this journey called ‘my life’, I’ve sought success and continue to strive for success. I have gone through different phases on this journey; from believing one book to have all the answers, to praying my way to success, to throwing it all away and deciding to work like a trojan, only to find a few weeks later that I had burnt out and was only a ‘smidge’ more successful than I had been prior to starting! A vicious cycle indeed.
There are countless guides and books that purport to have the keys to success, however, success is unique to each individual. It makes sense then to take relevant information from different sources and tailor them to you.
Below are some questions to ask yourself, which should guide you as you seek how to achieve success:
What end result do you want?
Start with the end in mind and work backwards. I must admit, I’m not a master of this, but I have been pondering this and trying to figure this out.
Imagine you only have a few months to live. What would you like to look back upon? I shuddered the first time someone asked me this. At the time I was asked this, I couldn’t think that far ahead and the question made no sense to me. This is a very important question though as it gets you to really start to think deeply on your ultimate goals and dreams.
Think about the kind of life you’d have to live to feel good at the end of it. We all have 24 hours in a day, but how we use it to achieve our end results is key. Your time is limited, so make the most of it.
What is your purpose?
This is an important question that many people don’t ask themselves. What is that thing (or things) you can’t live without (also known as your passion)? Do you want to write a great novel? Focus the next 25 years on creating and raising a family? Explore the world? Explore yourself? Make a huge impact on humanity?
Your life purpose consists of the reasons you get up in the morning. Purpose can guide your life decisions, influence your behaviour, guide you in goal-setting, offer a sense of direction and create meaning. Some say life’s purpose is not about what you do, but who you are; your being. No one can tell you what your purpose is, but you.
Whatever it is you enjoy doing in your free time that brings you pleasure, go for it! If you can determine the central focus of your life, everything else becomes much easier to determine.
What is your chosen career or business?
What do you like to do? Most people consider money first, but what would you like to spend eight hours per day doing for 40+ years? Of course, you’ll need to make enough money to pay your bills and pursue your passion.
If you are ambitious, you could seek success as an Entrepreneur, which in a lot of cases requires more than eight hours work per day, at least in the beginning stages of business anyway.
Success in career or business is, of course, subjective, and means different things to different people. To avoid the feeling of dreaded Mondays, it is advisable to build your career around what you enjoy, value, and your existing skills (or skills you are willing to develop).
Consider whom you would like to work with, or at least the type of people you would like to work with. Where do you want to work? How many people do you want to impact?
What type of home would you like to live in?
Your choice of living accommodations can also support your passion or be an obstacle. A home that is too big can require too much of your time to maintain or require too many financial resources relative to your income. You might also have to hire staff or housekeeping service to help. Managing those staff could be a drain on your time and focus if not well planned for.
Although this is not a blog post on manifesting abundance, I am of the notion that the money required to maintain your big home can be manifested. More on this on another day!
Where do you desire to live? Do you need to live in the town, city, or country, support what you truly desire? How many bedrooms would be ideal? All these questions are vital in achieving success on the home front!
What do you want for your health and fitness?
Would you like to lose weight? Would you like to improve your heart health or mental health? What will you eat? What won’t you eat? What exercise will you do? How many days a week will you exercise? Seriously! There are a number of questions you need to ask yourself in order to start taking steps to achieving your goals.
One reason why you may want to make your health and fitness a priority is to give yourself the chance to enjoy your success. Of course, no one knows what’s around the corner, healthwise, however, it’s still a great idea to do your best to live a healthier life.
How much free time do you want to have?
This isn’t just free time to pursue your passion, it’s also free time to enjoy other things in life, such as your family, friends, and your hobbies. What’s the point amassing success and wealth if you have no one to experience them with? A successful life would include enough free time to satisfy all of your interests. Your choice of career is a big part of this.
An American study found that employed people rated great satisfaction when they had approximately two and a half hours of free time a day. Of course, every case is different. You will need to decide how much free time would be ideal for you to enjoy various aspects of your life.
How committed are you to your success?
“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.“Winston Churchill
The road to success is not entirely easy. The Laws of the universe are set and there is definitely a way to reach success. As humans we may come across setbacks which may cause us to stumble if we are not dedicated to the end result.
An important question to ask yourself is “what is your why?” Why do you want to achieve what you want to achieve? Having the answer to this, will always spur you on when your tenacity starts to wane.
“Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn’t at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that’s where you will find success.”Thomas J. Watson
What may seem to be failures on your journey to success, are opportunities for learning and improvements. They most probably won’t seem like opportunities for learning whilst you are in the midst of those difficult experiences, but if you continue working towards your set goals, you will eventually breakthrough.
A truly successful life is one that allows you to accomplish or experience those things you consider to be most important. Those accomplishments won’t be the same for everyone.
Listen to your soul and drown out the external noise. You determine your definition of success. I’ll leave you with a beautiful quote which I have to remind myself of on this journey,
“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.”Eckhart Tolle
Be brave enough to journey on your own path, as you learn how to achieve success.
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